The Bethesda Family Services Foundation Relational Healing model was developed to help individuals (children and adults) heal emotional wounds caused by those who rejected them.

Bethesda’s Relationship Sequence is consistent with virtually every therapeutic model used by providers thus far. It is not a replacement for existing models that are successful. It does however, provide a much simpler approach for children and families who are trying to understand and trust the therapeutic process.

In short, Bethesda has “translated” the therapeutic language for the public at large, thereby increasing the trust level between therapists and those who are afflicted. This is simplified in  Four Steps to Emotional Healing,” which provides a therapeutic journey that results in lasting change:


  1. Admission and Grieving: The first step toward victory and healing, after a primary relationship has broken down, is admission and grieving. As pain is poured out, healing begins to pour in. “The rain of grieving will quench the fire of rage.”
  2. Confrontation and Disclosure: The victim is now ready to confront his/her painful past and the offender(s) who contributed to it. This process begins with a series of assignments which are set forth in letter form by the victim to his/her parent(s) and/or offender(s). When these written memories are applied, the result is truly life-changing for the participant. The final stage of confrontation and disclosure requires the victim to take accountability for his/her offenses of retaliation toward his/her own victim(s). This allows for complete restoration.
  3. Forgiveness and Reconciliation: This third stage requires a purposeful decision on the part of the victim to let go of the bitterness and rage that previously owned him. He is not surrendering to the offender, but rather the bitterness he feels toward the offender. The choice to forgive is always difficult, but only this decision will bring genuine emotional healing to the victim and those around him.
  4. Restoration and Healing: After the victim has progressed through each of the three previous steps to healing, he/she is now at peace with his/her past and able to regulate his/her emotions. He/she must then make a contractual commitment to release his/her offender(s) and move forward toward rebuilding his/her current relationships. This results in emotional and relational healing. Only now he/she is able to develop healthy and lasting relationships.